the universe continues..
We need to put ourselves and our dreams out there, visualize, explore, and share; it doesn’t hurt to put in a word with our higher power either. That is my version of ‘the being’ in the universe; it comes in many different entities other than God or Jesus. I was indeed brought up a strict Catholic, but I was also introduced to the world of the Dalai Lama in my teens, and reincarnation made a big imprint on me. Their teachings have us coming back or being reincarnated until we “get it right” in this life. Then and only then can we rest in eternal peace.
If we were an abuser in a previous life, we may come back as a person being abused so we can learn a valuable lesson. Eventually, we will learn all the valuable lessons to become perfect people. Do I believe this? In a way, I do because it makes a lot of sense. In my next life, I am coming back as a banker, and all the bankers who turned me down because I was a woman trying to start my own business will be coming back in my shoes… lol. Karma is a b#tch and her name is, well, you get the picture.
Life is what we make it. I also believe that we need to ask for what we want, or maybe it’s just having a dream. For instance, I always knew I wanted to be married and have kids (I’m from the olden days). I also knew I was going to be a hairdresser/hairstylist and own a business/salon.
What I didn’t realize was that my husband would have to co-sign for me to make my dream come true, three salons in fact! This same man took us through bankruptcy with his failed business, and the Royal Bank of Canada manager forged MY signature on his failed business loan. (I had deferred co-signing for him at the time, but he still got the loan).
That is a true story, and it feels really good to put it out here! Oh my.. that one must have been festering inside of me because I’m on a high right now just letting that one go. This is also easily proved, btw, but my lawyer at the time said it is not worth fighting it (she was also a woman). When you forge someone’s signature, remember to spell their name correctly, duh!
Sometimes I’m in awe at what flows out onto my page. The stuff that happened to me back in the day wouldn’t happen in today’s world, and that’s a good thing. Being a woman today is so empowering. That I am single and making it on my own and thriving is even better. Well, my son does help me financially, and that is a blessing. Being poor and old is not a terrible thing, and I could’ve made it work, but he stepped in.
The thing is, we do what we have to do. Being a woman alone is challenging, but also exciting, and we are stronger than we can ever know, and I believe this to be true. My advice to everyone today, man or woman, is to save your money for your old age. Especially entrepreneurs, we don’t have that guaranteed pension most get from working for a big company or the government.
Okay, back to my universe theme again, stuff is happening to me, and I just wanted to acknowledge it. I’m grateful, and it’s important to also give thanks to this higher power. If you believe it or not, it doesn’t hurt to pay homage, right?
Make an effort to give thanks for something today. Wake up and be grateful for something. It’s okay to ask for stuff you may never get, Tom Selleck comes to my mind, but I digress. The lottery thing is wishful thinking, but having enough money to live on is important. Family is the most important thing in my life, and I miss them so much being here in Yuma. Thank goodness for FaceTime, I can get my fix, and they don’t have to deal with me in real life, lol.
One more thing, and maybe this will be a surprise to most. SMILE… try it today, smile more, especially if you are old, we tend to look grouchy, but it is just the wrinkles dragging our mouth down. My son said to me once, when I went back to help him through a spell in the catering business, “mom why are you so mad all the time?”
I was dumbfounded by his remark because I wasn’t in the least mad or even sad. From that day forward, I would catch myself in the mirror, and I turned that frown upside down. Sorry/not sorry, but it’s true. I have so many people say to me now, “You are always so happy,” and that’s a fact.
And that’s a wrap!
January 28th, 2023,
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footnote: yes, I made that centerpiece (I’m pretty good at playing with knives, who knew?)