If the shoe fits..
Are you a giver, taker, or maybe just a moneymaker (some people are workaholics and only live for their jobs), or are you dead inside? They have a show called ‘The Walking Dead’ but in real life, I think there are a lot of people walking around dead inside. I confess to have been one of those people, it happens.
Being dead inside is okay once in a while, it numbs you from life. Nothing can hurt us because we made the decision to withdraw from participating. We go through the motions, just barely. Eventually, we will have to emerge from our holding pattern and start feeling again.
There comes a day of reckoning. “Am I going to live my life on hold or do I want my life to mean something?” The first step out of this catharsis is recognizing we need to start caring about ourselves. Actually, as I sit here and think about it, this is maybe the most important step of all. Caring about ourselves means letting go of shit… “stuff or people that do not make our life better” Period.
It could be a job or a person or even country music… my god, slit my wrists now. If it’s a spouse, you are basically screwed unless you poison them or get a divorce. I suggest letting them live only because you might get caught, what with all these CSI shows on TV. 
We can’t pick our relatives, but we can pick our friends. Pick ones that are uplifting and sort through them like you are trying on shoes, we can all relate to that. Stop and breathe, think about which ones are comfortable and which ones are hurty. If you have no friends… well that happens as well, if you have money, go buy some : ) You may need to think about that one.
We can all relate to the ones that have been gradually crippling us until we start wondering why our feet hurt. It is like bunions that keep growing bigger until you can hardly walk. Eventually, you’ll need to cut them off. I realize this is kind of graphic, but in actuality, it is an insidious process… taking place sometimes over many years.
So, to make a long story short, (see picture) we don’t have to actually eliminate our feet, just don’t buy into those hurty ones anymore, give them away. Relatives are included in this, some are like a fungus, lordy, lordy.. you’ll wish you had no feet.
There will be times we need to walk in another person’s shoes, only so we can understand where they are coming from. Don’t become a shoe whore though but rather keep the ones that truly fit. Oh, and keep checking out the new shoes, you’ll never know when you’ll find a great fit…
Lastly, nurture your soul and always surround yourself with great shoes. The ‘Walking Dead’ don’t look very happy, do they even have shoes, i wonder, I’ve never watched it.
My life is slowly getting shorter but I’m free from being one of the walking dead. For those that are really dead, I’m living my life for them… especially for you Barb, and my sister Robin, I think of you two a lot, and I celebrate my life for both of you.
I’m really not sure what the point is for this blog, or do I even need a point? Maybe I just needed to reaffirm my commitment to care about my own well-being. We need to live our own lives and rid ourselves of toxins creeping in, or toxic relationships… feel free to use my shoe theory. 
Oh, and one last thought… if you are Tom Selleck reading this, your shoes are always welcome under my bed, anytime… just saying (bucket list) pass it along.
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April 2018