international women’s day.. what it means to me
International Women’s Day (my Sunday blog)
What does it even mean, International Women’s Day? To celebrate women, or just give lip service to the idea of it, or is it just another day for most? My thoughts turn to all those years that could have been… that’s what I mourn. The wasted futility of constantly re-arranging myself to fit into a broken mold, a marriage constantly floundering in stormy seas.
I’m a woman who has freed myself from my own chosen bonds. How could I not have known how sweet life is, within myself? I know we mate to procreate the human race, but whatever possesses some of us to mate with partners that disrespect our spirit and seek to make us less than?
Sure, there is give and take in any relationship, but why do some only take and why do the givers accommodate them? I’m not alone, there are many of us from a different generation, we are the ‘to death do us part’ crowd. I only wish that I hadn’t wasted so many years trying to fix the faults that another imagined in me.
Maybe we should use this day to celebrate with our daughters. Let’s lift them and give them strength, inner strength, the kind needed to choose wisely. We are beautiful, and we are strong. We don’t need someone to complete us. When and if we choose a mate, they need to honor these gifts we selflessly lay at their feet.
In other words, don’t choose an asshole to live your life with. When you get to my age, those assholes are only good for one thing, and that is shitting on you! You’re never too old to change, and by that, I mean “changing your situation”. There are many of us women in our sixties and seventies finally saying ENOUGH! I applaud you, but why did we wait so long…
Our daughters need to know they are strong and they are beautiful, as well as smart and savvy. Tell them every day, don’t ever let the men in the house disrespect them. Let’s teach our sons to honour and respect women, always. If it’s too late for our daughters, then let’s teach our granddaughters, nieces, and every girl we come in contact with… “we are worthy.”
“Don’t ever let another person disrespect you… especially a boyfriend.” I didn’t know any better, but I sure do now. I also came from a broken home, a single mom with seven kids. I am not using that as an excuse but rather trying to figure out why I chose to let someone disrespect me for so long. But let’s get this straight. I eventually figured it out, and the truth finally set me free.
You can’t really live when you are dead inside. If only one person reads this and understands what I am talking about, do it now. It takes courage, and you might be scared, BUT we are worth it. We deserve to live our best lives. With great sorrow also comes great JOY… the likes you never could have imagined.
We cannot change those we love, but we CAN change our own circumstances. I say choose to love ourselves enough to allow our truth, our beauty, and our inner spirit to soar free. Our very soul will find the peace we seek, and only then can we go about living… truly LIVING.
Just my thoughts on this, International Women’s Day.
To my daughter and my granddaughters and nieces, all the women in my life, you are all soooo loved by me, you are smart and beautiful and STRONG, be brave and fearless and love yourself always. I celebrate all of you and myself included.
copyright
March 8th, 2018
(yes, I wrote this 8 years ago)
www.my-thirdlife.com
What does it even mean, International Women’s Day? To celebrate women, or just give lip service to the idea of it, or is it just another day for most? My thoughts turn to all those years that could have been… that’s what I mourn. The wasted futility of constantly re-arranging myself to fit into a broken mold, a marriage constantly floundering in stormy seas.
I’m a woman who has freed myself from my own chosen bonds. How could I not have known how sweet life is, within myself? I know we mate to procreate the human race, but whatever possesses some of us to mate with partners that disrespect our spirit and seek to make us less than?
Sure, there is give and take in any relationship, but why do some only take and why do the givers accommodate them? I’m not alone, there are many of us from a different generation, we are the ‘to death do us part’ crowd. I only wish that I hadn’t wasted so many years trying to fix the faults that another imagined in me.
Maybe we should use this day to celebrate with our daughters. Let’s lift them and give them strength, inner strength, the kind needed to choose wisely. We are beautiful, and we are strong. We don’t need someone to complete us. When and if we choose a mate, they need to honor these gifts we selflessly lay at their feet.
In other words, don’t choose an asshole to live your life with. When you get to my age, those assholes are only good for one thing, and that is shitting on you! You’re never too old to change, and by that, I mean “changing your situation”. There are many of us women in our sixties and seventies finally saying ENOUGH! I applaud you, but why did we wait so long…
Our daughters need to know they are strong and they are beautiful, as well as smart and savvy. Tell them every day, don’t ever let the men in the house disrespect them. Let’s teach our sons to honour and respect women, always. If it’s too late for our daughters, then let’s teach our granddaughters, nieces, and every girl we come in contact with… “we are worthy.”
“Don’t ever let another person disrespect you… especially a boyfriend.” I didn’t know any better, but I sure do now. I also came from a broken home, a single mom with seven kids. I am not using that as an excuse but rather trying to figure out why I chose to let someone disrespect me for so long. But let’s get this straight. I eventually figured it out, and the truth finally set me free.
You can’t really live when you are dead inside. If only one person reads this and understands what I am talking about, do it now. It takes courage, and you might be scared, BUT we are worth it. We deserve to live our best lives. With great sorrow also comes great JOY… the likes you never could have imagined.
We cannot change those we love, but we CAN change our own circumstances. I say choose to love ourselves enough to allow our truth, our beauty, and our inner spirit to soar free. Our very soul will find the peace we seek, and only then can we go about living… truly LIVING.
Just my thoughts on this, International Women’s Day.
To my daughter and my granddaughters and nieces, all the women in my life, you are all soooo loved by me, you are smart and beautiful and STRONG, be brave and fearless and love yourself always. I celebrate all of you and myself included.
copyright
March 8th, 2018
(yes, I wrote this 8 years ago)
www.my-thirdlife.com