I’m a survivor
I think most of us have probably been bullied at some point in our lives. Why is that I wonder? Have we, ourselves, bullied others? I think the answer to both is yes, but as we age we learn to do better. I’m into the old age part of my life and bullies are still around, lordy lordy, give me a break.
Getting older we learn to let stuff roll off of us. We are into the second half of our lives (well I’m into my third life/ quarter, yikes) do we want to waste precious time and energy on people who don’t add joy to our lives? I sure don’t and I also love living. Making a conscious decision to ignore or shake off stuff that saps at our lifes/blood was an effort for me but also life-altering. I will flush a person, in my mind, each time they appear. It’s not things that upset us … unless it’s my messy house, it’s friends, our neighbours, or even a spouse. You can’t kill the spouse, some do, but it’s frowned on. You can flush the rest, even family, which happens : ( We don’t need to tolerate toxic people in our lives.
I don’t go out of my way to be near them or with them and I certainly don’t stalk them on social media; in fact, I’ll just snooze them when they come across my feed so I don’t have to see their posts, and you’re welcome : ) If someone gives you a pain in the ass … snooze em. No blocking or deleting is required just snoozing once a month. Don’t forget to mentally flush them from your mind, it takes practice but it does work. You’ll be much happier, trust me : )
We can decide how we want to live each day upon awakening. I try to remember to give my higher power gratitude before turning out the lights. I also give that same higher-power stuff I can’t seem to deal with. I sleep better and I’ll worry about it in the morning. I have resolved issues I’m working on, in my dreams… it happens.
Do what you enjoy and try to live each day in the moment. Just be yourself, not everyone is going to like you, but you will like yourself : ) I tend to speak my mind but I’m not mean-spirited, just truthful. Sometimes it gets me into trouble but nothing I can’t handle. I can’t do the two-faced route, if I have an issue I’ll confront you. I will not say anything behind your back that I wouldn’t say to your face. I appreciate honesty and I can live with myself and I sleep well at night.
I recently proposed a solution to our dwindling numbers in our ladies’ golfing circle. We started with over forty ladies last year and are now hard-pressed to get a solid sixteen (four teams). I never liked golfing but this was a fun league and I decided I needed to try new things last year after someone near and dear to me passed away.
I still don’t really like golfing, but I love the camaraderie of the ladies and I also love the picturesque golf course. The gal that is in charge, tends to be on the bossy side and a loud kinda person. She was lecturing us on the dwindling numbers and had heard rumours of grumbling and someone killing the fun. I suggested she should maybe look ‘inward’ at herself and failing that, call up all the gals that dropped out and find out the reason why.
I’m that person who likes to figure stuff out and I’ll always stand up and be counted. I like that about myself and can live with it. I was immediately kicked off the “Ladies Who Golf for Fun” roster. She pointed to me as being the reason for everyone’s lack of fun… and blocked me from the page as well. So much for freedom of speech, I guess.
I’m a lousy golfer but always enjoyed my outings with the ladies I met. Truth is I was even hitting the balls better and my ‘putting’ is pretty good. I will miss them all but I’m not going to dwell on stuff I can’t change. I have a hunch that there will be more changes next year. Guess I am just a renegade senior with nothing better to do… eh? And a Canadian to boot : )
If you like golf but are afraid to try it, this league is for you. We don’t keep score, the ladies are fun and the staff at Desert Hills Golf Course are the best. The Golf pros are so accommodating and know their stuff, and they take an interest in teaching us to golf better. I will miss it and them.
The reason I’m writing this blog is because I will carry on with my life as is, this was just a slight blip. Never let someone bully you, I’m already over it and this is her problem, never mine. Did she even realize that she just lost another golfer, probably not : ) Be yourself always, and don’t apologize for that. When you wake up, put on a smile and choose happy…
I’m still writing my book and now have some extra time to spend on it.
I’ve finally decided on a title
My-Third Life (a heart emoji here) Life and XXX After Sixty
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March 8th 2024
PS: The best part of this Ladies Who Golf For Fun is the price! 15.00 includes the golf and the cart. If you need golf clubs come see me, I might have some, FREE They are used though… just like me : )